According to child abuse statistics, a shocking 90 percent of abusers are known by children and they are around children. 30 to 40 percent of people encounter abuse from direct family members and 50 percent are abuse coming from close people. The highest abuse rates are in Ethiopia but we are not here to rank abusers! We are here to open some eyes, throw some light into what goes wrong and where in a person's development from a child to a person?!! Why do children coming from abusive families lack confidence? Because they are victims of various degradation and attacks. These attacks can be verbal or physical. Any abused person might go through distrust, they might feel scared / get tensed easily and feel cornered. These issues can later translate into major problems in a person's life like learning difficulties , trouble being in relationships or being interactive, depression and anxiety. A variety of our insecurities arise from the way we are treated, especially in close circles.
Children might grow up to be suppressed, sad, angry, afraid, unhappy individuals as they witness abuse on an everyday basis or frequently. What can be more confusing is that the same person who lashes out at your or physically tortures you can also be good to you and fun at times. These behaviour of theirs might have a pattern! How to trust one person when they have two kinds of characters? For a long time children being in abusive families might not even have an idea whether this is common or not in other families because from birth they are seeing closely only their own families and whatever is frequently happening in their families become common to them, however traumatizing it can be.Lack of confidence in oneself can definitely be from an abusive family environment where the child looses its self esteem over a gradual and painful period of time. Abused people can turn out to be anybody, they can turn out to be people doing well in their careers or life but yet can have a lack of self confidence or suicidal tendencies or violent/ criminal behavours etc.
Sometimes people tend to give out the pain in many folds as they have received it and these cases are dangerous. But yes, sadly children from abusive homes will struggle alot with self confidence as adults. And surely empathetic and concerned people in their lives can bring beautiful changes to them.
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