I am just going to be open here and write about the rocking boat in which I am on, called “Weight issues”. Well, you cannot categorise me as an extremely obese person or don’t create any mind images cause I am currently 88 kgs and I want to begin my journey by speaking a little about my childhood and health issues. I used to be in my native staying close to my grandparents house. Every night we used to pick which house we should sleep and all. Throughout the day I would be in my grandparents house. We had mango and coconut trees . I used to eat mangoes and cashew fruits the most as snacks as a child, everything was either from our trees or neighbours. We all used to live in harmony . I liked being a small town girl, as a child my dreams were never stained or I never have had such scary nightmares about my life. I had a happy life when I was in Kerala. But then my dad took us to Abu dhabi when I was starting my fourth grade thats when I started having junk food like KFC and burger.I used to cry everyday because I couldnt see my grandparents and which made me find comfort in junk food.
I couldnt resist the juicy meat from KFC, they prepared it so damn well 😅 but jokes apart , along with that I was picked on in my new school by my peers and some teachers. Coming from Kerala back then I was not so fluent in English language because as I was in my native we spoke native language. And my dad started criticising me for everything, I think he found me embaressing that I didnt pick up according to his pace ( but now I write and to the public , so I dont think I failed anybody, but most importantly me). Yes, I was bullied in school not by one but many as in a gang and no it is not pathetic! NO child should go through this. After few years, as in when I became 12 and 1/2 years , I was in 8th standard, this is the period in my life when I decided I wanted to be a model . So I made a diet plan for myself on my own where I ate pulses, fish , wheat, milk and veggies. I avoided the rest including egg and chicken. I also exercised for almost 1 hour on a treadmill and an hour running everyday, I drastically reduced weight, I became thin. I was overjoyed , because my selfesteem was always tied to one thing my weight !! And I continued the diet but I aslo was dealing with irregular periods at that time. So what happened? One day I was hit with a severe pain in my abdomen and I was taken to the hospital. There a couple of doctors tested me and confirmed that I am having a cyst in my left ovary and seems like my left ovary is completly damaged and it is in my best interest to operate it off by the time my bleeding has also started which I mistook for periods. I was rushed to kerala for a better gynec surgeon ‘s service and we decided to go on a hosiptal that focused on maternity care. We had the best gynec there who operated me quickly even before a hi- hello after a scan and there it was I was less of one cyst and my left ovary.
Then for the next two months I was left with sleepless nights. Because I thought if I didnt have one ovary I couldnt give birth and i felt shattered because I liked kids. Those were the days I found it hard to find a purpose to my existence. Finally, my parents took me for a counseling sesison with my gynec and he explained how even with ovary we can give birth and that comforted me. I slowly became my cheerful old self! Then the recession hit in gulf and we had to come back to our native. Then even though I had irregular periods, and weight gain in 10th grade again which reduced by 11th and reappared after 12th grade vacation. In college again I was insulted by many peers as they took little dig at my weight and please note that my weight never went above 80 kg at any case. They would share snarky comments like oh she can drink more wine she has got more space and all which felt awful. But then alot of guys were hitting on me too because I was curvy and I owned it. I also had a very cute face which I am proud of me and a kind heart atleast I never hurt people or bullied them based on their medical conditions. But then in the second semester of college again I had a stomach pain and was taken to hospital there they diagnosed that in my right ovary also there is a cyst but it was polycyst not dangerous if I took precautions — bedrest and tablets . This shattered me, the same fear of not able to have kids latched on to me like a damn scary bad luck. But then luckily nothing happened , the cyst was gone after proper medication and precautions. During these college days I was constantly hurt by my then love , who meant the world to me, first love had to be a sweet experience for most but it was terrible. He mostly used to poke around my weight and he played a huge part in tampering with my self esteem and confidence. I have forgiven him, but I can never forget how negatively he impacted me…How his multiple relationships, his polygamy affected me. So I dont talk to him now even if he is trying hard because he is toxic for me that is the hard truth. And the moment I become fat, I know the drill ! What he is gonna do…so,I decided, no more of him for the rest of my life. If someone cannot accept me and acknowledge my medical condition then so be it there are kind men in this world who would genuinely want to be with me. And thats when I met my now love, Allen. After my relationship started with allen which is long distance but a happy one again god is testing me now with thyroid which is adding on to my weight fluctuations. I am not a terribly fat person who cannot be looked at or anything. But yeah, my health is very important and hence I see this weight gain as a challenge, but on a positive note this a WAKE UP call for much stricter diets and putting in on more efforts. There are alot of people dealing with PCOD and thyroid, a lot of people facing weight issues, fighting with self esteem and confidence, I just to tell all the people reading this, “ This is your journey” . If your cellular metabolism is low , then so be it work with what you have got and see where it takes you!
I’m taking Ayurvedic medicines as it has no side effects compared to english medicine. And my treatment involves eating bitter medicines to control my thyroid and so far we have seen a successful result. I have followed strict diets as well. If you having Hashimotos (thyroid) then you need to follow on few pointers —
Add mild spices in your food. Don’t have spicy food.
Avoid citrus fruits.
Reduce Diary.
Replace fries with curry.
Reduce chicken consumption.
Drink plenty of water.
Sleep well.
Exercise Regularly.
Always deal every issues with a smile. If you panic, that can affect you.
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