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Dating? Is it a crime in our society?

Oh! are you dating someone child? Heard she is dating a foreigner! Why does she spoil her family name? Oh, my god! her father's reputation in the society was lost because of her? He is seeing a girl? Isn't she dark? and short too? He could have got a better girl! Blind in love!! I know that most of us have heard these kinds of criticisms since a long time , about others as well as about yourselves too. Do we have to worry about the society? My answer would be a big NO, does the society pay your bill? does the society took any pain to bring you up? Then why we should care about our society? We have to truly care for those people who took pain in constructing us to become what we are now!

Dating a couple of people, before you settle with one is not wrong. Please understand dating does not mean we are having a relationship , it is simply trying to know a person.We panic a lot when we are not able to differentiate between the meaning of dating and a relationship.Make sure the "one" you choose stays longer than the rest and has the patience to do the puzzle!!!You are a puzzle and there will a person who would succeed in solving it and trust me he is the one!Find the one who will not quit soon.Nobody can live your life for you.Your choice is your responsibility! So make wise choices but if you fall then remember there is a rise from it.Today is not the end of the world and tomorrow is always a fresh start.So the first thing to make sure before you do something is that the society or anyone else is not controlling you, its you who has the sole control on you.Even if you date your own native person or a foreign person or a fair person or a dark person or a bubbly person or a thin person, it should ultimately be your wish and not others. Have confidence in you first and ofcourse the one you love. Leaving your parents for someone new is not a good thing, but you can stay and convince them till they are ready. Because parents have taken a greater pain in bringing you up. There whole life was a sacrifice for you, my parents are like that even now! And leaving someone you love just because of some other pressure is called cheating. Because true love is irreplaceable, how much ever you try the one who was in your life will be "one" who is truly merged to your soul, if you leave them you will be nothing.

Life is one, love is one and challenges are many! And the one who knows how to handle them well without losing your loved once is the king or queen.So be a king, you men out there and be a queen, you woman out there. Society doesn't determine anything in your life. Ultimately it will be your family and those close people in your life who will be with you in times of pain. So be wise and let the heart too play a small part in the decision making process.Bring a change in your life, by changing the unnecessary barriers of society and reputation in society brought by some one who had no other fruitful job.You decide your reputation and you create your standards in the society.It all depends on you!!

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