Love is Love : Don’t let fear take away your happiness

Love is a beautiful feeling.Yet , alot of people sacrifice on their happiness because they fear, family, friends, society or some other group of people. “Love is love”, why fear anything else, if you are in love? First of all after a certain age (this is from personal experience) we seek companionship, it becomes a need even friends cannot bridge the gap, of the amount of lonliness we are feeling. We need constant appreciation, understanding and love from someone special. We need someone to romance us, bring out the best in us and like us with all our flaws (who are not a blood relation). Our blood will always accept us with our flaws but to be felt special by someone coming from an entirely different background is a new beautiful feeling which can strengthen us. When someone willingly and wantingly spents quality time with us, encourages us, comforts us, helps us grow, it helps us nourish our values, desires, empathy and keeps us happy. Happiness to a great extent can keep us healthy. Why should we sacrifice a healthy life, for an unhealthy human interference? In India, and especially in south india from where I come, Love is still a taboo topic. People speak badly of the ones in love. They always criticise, point out, even insult couples who are not married. Well, rome was not built in a day and so are any relationships we form. All of us are coming from different backgrounds and situations, it is not possible to marry someone faster, we have to consider all factors. Sometimes we want to marry but our finance doesnt agree. Sometimes it can also be because of our responsibilities to our family or the need to find a better job etc. People around us should be able to respect our happiness even if they feel jealous about our happiness. Yeah, jealousy is an understandable feeling and as humans it will be there in people to an extend. But when you find people who cannot respect our happiness or boundaries, then you do not have to convince them or think about them. Having lived in an orthodox family and background I found it hard to understand the concept of living together but as I grew up, and now in my mid twenties I understand how important it is to feel the bond with your partner, to know if it genuinely works out or not. People often think living together means loosing virginity. Well, how silly is that mindset. There are people who live together to find out about their compatibility when put in real life situations, or the desire to stay together to feel the partnership, to bond more, for skin to skin contact, all of these reasons but not so cheap to categorise it as sex. Because in love there are no meaningless sex. So, we do not have to explain ourselves to others, our bonds are unique and truly special. We need to focus on our happiness than over thinking about what others think about our decisions. Hey, its our life after all! All our decisions mean something to us and thats all that matters. There is an incident I wanted to share, listen with an open mind and try to understand the message I am trying to convey. Recently, I took a trip to pondicherry, in tamil nadu. My boyfriend was also a part of the trip. I suggested to go to Paradise Island beach as I have heard its vast and beautiful, it was a pleasant experience too to visit. But coming back from the beach on the road we saw tamil nadu police they were stopping all couples , or men and women traveling together. The biggest surprise was they didnt shout at anyone / took fine from anyone for driving without a helmet. But their problem was seeing men and women together. They laughed at and insulted us. They took our video like we have commited some crime, all they wanted to know was if we were married , if so they wanted proof and if not married then they wanted to talk to our parents to know if they were aware that we are with a boy. My boyfriend said “Yes, we are traveling together. She is my girlfriend.” The police mocked our honesty and asked us to call my mother. They talked to my mother and my mother said that she is aware of the trip and the fact that I am with my boyfriend. Now did the hell break loose? Since, we were found genuine, they asked us to leave but still insulting us by taking our video, and anticipating men and women out of wedlock get together or travel together just for sex is a bullshit mindset. I greatly appreciate my boyfriend for proving that he had a backbone by answering crisp and clear for each questions they throwed at us without getting scared. We dont have to be scared if we are righteous enough. Such kind of polices are not of any good service to people or society. I Hope some mindsets change and couples out of wedlock are also respected equally. Love is love, and love is not just sex. Companionship is a necessity of life. To love and to be loved is a beautiful feeling. Dont let fear take away your happiness or cloud your judgement.