"Confidence is not 'they will like me'. Confidence is 'I'll be fine if they don't'."
This is a quote I read online when I was searching for empowering quotes on confidence.In the previous chapters we have seen how our family, peers and society affect our confidence. Well, relationships are no cakewalk. Like family or friends, someone we love, our partner, their behaviour towards us have a long lasting impact on our confidence. It can either strengthen us or suppress us. When we give our heart away, when we become vulnerable in front of someone, we do that because we trust them. We trust them and that is why we care what they say- both good and the bad. We trust them, so we believe that we are what they are thinking about us, or what they are seeing in us. But the truth is far from that. We are what we are, we are what we know and we are definitely what we don't know. But one thing is for sure, we are not the discouraging words coming from someone's mouth. We are not invalid or incapable or inefficient or less in anyway and we should never forget that.
If a relationship is not increasing your knowledge or value in any way, then it's a loss for you.When you are not even able to gain emotional support and mental well being then this is not your cup of tea. Once you see a red flag, ignoring it is the biggest mistake we do and that too in the name of love. It is not love when it's you who gets hurt throughout a relationship. Growing familiar to someone doesn't justify staying with them, even when they are being disrespectful or inconsiderate. Most people I have known personally have something or the other that can be called demeaning or traumatizing interms of partnership and love. We tend to have some wrong perceptions about love. Everyone in our life is not shouting at us or changing us for our better. Suggestions and constructive criticisms are good, but turning you into a puppet is not for your good. Your confidence comes from a few major factors- your character, your emotional and financial stability and also your belief in your beauty. Beauty cannot be defined in one sentence or some words, there is no single definition for it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the saying goes. Hence, the simplest way to stay happy and confident is to be with someone who sees the beauty in you!
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